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What Should Men Do During Labor? 5 Essentials

Updated: Jul 16


Alright, guys, we know there's a mountain of advice out there on how to support your partner during labor. It’s overwhelming and, let’s face it, a lot of it is fluff. We're cutting through the BS to give you actionable tips that actually work. Follow these steps, and you'll be ready to step up when it counts.


1. What to Do During Labor


Your presence is vital. From early labor to delivery, your job is to keep her comfortable and calm. This might include:


  • Packing bags and the car

  • Taking care of other kids

  • Timing contractions

  • Offering distractions and words of encouragement

  • Holding her hand and using coping strategies



During the later stages, focus on:

  • Whispering encouragement

  • Offering food and water

  • Helping her to the bathroom

  • Communicating with medical staff and advocating for her wishes



2. Discuss Partner Roles Beforehand

Talk about what she needs and how you can help. This conversation helps you remember the important tasks and lets her know you’ve got her back. Use tools like the DudeDoula app to create a checklist and ensure you’re prepared.



3. Solidify Roles

Have an open conversation about your commitment. Decide specific roles, whether it’s being the playlist DJ or the massage expert. Clarity here helps both of you feel more secure.



4. Plan for Breaks

Supporting her doesn’t mean you can’t take breaks. Explain where you're going, what you're doing, and when you’ll be back. This keeps her feeling secure and supported.



5. Get Support for Yourself

Consider having a doula or an experienced family member with you. Labor is intense, and having backup can help you stay calm and effective. And remember the DudeDoula app offers reminders, coping strategies, and checklists to keep you on track.




A picture of a phone with DudeDoula the app on it. The app helps men know what to do when they are supporting laboring women



Final Thoughts

It sounds simple, but it will mean everything to her. People can accomplish more when they are a team, so get ready to participate. Not only will this win you major brownie points, but it will have you walking into fatherhood with confidence.


Still Have Questions?

The biggest question we get is, do I need any training to do this? The short answer is no. You know her best. You are the person in the room that loves her the most. You are the best person for the job. We’re happy to take any other questions you have.

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